Not talking to the single folks, of course. You all can boycott away.
I’m not a big fan of Valentine’s Day. I do have a sweetheart, I don’t think she’d say I’m any less than a 7/10 on the “romantic” scale, and I do love expressing it to her in every way possible. Still, I’m not a big fan of Valentine’s Day.
My excuse (and the excuse of many guys) is that the occasion is too commercial. The gifts are prescribed and it’s more about meeting requirements than celebrating love. My rant usually contains the questions:
- How many times a year do you otherwise buy her flowers? Chocolates?
- Is a romantic dinner suitable for February 14th or the 14th of any month?
- If you bought her a card, did you just sign it because you were content with the pre-packaged messaging?
At it’s core, my accusation is that Valentine’s Day is the lazy man’s romantic gesture.
Granted, there are many people who go out of their way to do something creative for their partner, but by and large, it’s the Lindts and Hallmarks of the world who are the givers (and receivers) on Valentine’s Day. They tell you what to say and how to say it.
Above is the rant that my amazingly tolerant girlfriend, (who is a 9/10 on the romantic scale) has had to sit through over and over. But she recently offered me another perspective.
“How often do you buy your favourite aunt a gift?” My answer was just once a year, on Christmas.
“Then why would you not have an issue with the positioning of gifts on that holiday, when it often supersedes the religious importance of the day, which we both celebrate?”
That’s why I love her. She’s right, after all. And more than her literal example, what it boiled down to was seizing an opportunity to show your appreciation for someone important in your life. The rest be damned, especially the stipulations set forth by brands.
(That rhymed! I wish I could do that all the time. …..oh my God).
Mind you, I’ll probably never buy her flowers or a heart-shaped anything in February. But, I will view it as a chance to creatively express how much she means to me, without the aid of candy, cards and pre-massaged messaging that’s better suited for a text message conversation between two 16 year olds.
So to the rest of the guys, like me, pointing fingers at the lazy man’s romance, accept your own challenge and be better this year, for her.